7 Ways To Be More Confident On A Date


Everyone gets nervous before a date, especially a first date. It’s only natural when meeting someone new and really being given a chance to get to know them better, and of course, show yourself in the best light you can. However, some people get more than a case of simple nerves, and their fears and lack of confidence can mean that they are reluctant to date at all. If that is the case, or even if you just want to know how to feel more confident on dates in general, then here are some great tips for you.



Perhaps easier said than done, but if you possibly can give yourself half an hour or so to relax before you need to head out on your date, you will certainly feel better for it. You’ll be less nervous, and that means you will feel more confident.


The key when it comes to relaxing is to slow your breathing, so breathing exercises are a good way to start. All you need to do is to find a quiet space to sit and concentrate on breathing in and out. This will instantly make you feel calmer, as will meditation or, if you have time, visiting a spa for a massage. Drinking chamomile tea is another great way to relax more, but try not to drink alcohol before your date as you run the risk of over-doing it, and although you would certainly be more confident you wouldn’t make a good impression.


Boost Your Mood

When you are feeling happy, you will also feel more confident, so it makes sense to do something that will boost your mood before you meet up with your date. This could be eating some chocolate, or going for a run. You might paint a picture or listen to some music (or play it perhaps). As long as you do something you enjoy, your body will be flooded with endorphins. Endorphins are chemicals that naturally boost the mood, and they can be useful in difficult situations as they will make you feel so much better.



As with anything, the more you practice, the better (and more confident) you will get, and dating is no different. You might have friends or family members who would be happy to ‘stand-in’ for your date so that you can practice having an interesting conversation, for example. Alternatively, if you don’t have someone to help you, you could look at hiring an escort to help you; you can find out more about this idea here.


Practice holding a conversation and being polite and courteous. It all makes a big difference to how much you – and your date – enjoy the evening you have together.


Be Open

If you set off on your date with specific expectations about what you are going to experience, then you aren’t going to be able to enjoy yourself as much as you might if you are more open to ‘going with the flow.’ Although it’s good to have some kind of structure for how the date will go in your mind, being too rigid and planning too much will take away the fun element of it, and, far from relaxing you and making you feel more confident, you will still feel stressed out because you will be trying to manipulate the situation to fit in with your plans and expectations.


Instead, try to be more ‘in the moment’ and enjoy yourself rather than worrying about what might or might not come next, or what you should be planning for.


Be Yourself

Although this may sound like something of a cliché, that doesn’t make it any less important; being yourself is essential on a date. If you try to be someone or something that you’re not, your confidence might be high to begin with, because you are hiding behind a mask, but it won’t last for long. You will start to feel uncomfortable and awkward, and your date will notice this, and they will feel uncomfortable too, and this is not good for the success of the date in general.


Being yourself will make you seem confident even if you’re feeling nervous, and if you want more than one date with someone, you’re going to need to come clean at some point – the longer it takes, the harder it will be, and all in all you simply won’t be able to have an honest, open, trusting relationship if it all started in a lie.


What Are Your Strengths?

Take some time to work out what your strengths are before you go on a date. These are the things that you should talk about. Everyone has weaknesses, but they don’t need to be brought up during your date; if you do this, you will start to focus on them and become more aware of them, making you more nervous. Keeping to your strengths will make you more aware of them instead, and that will boost your confidence.


It Might Not Work Out

The reason you might be nervous and lose confidence when you go on a date is because you are so keen to ensure that it works. Although it’s wonderful when it does, you need to remember that it might not. You simply might not be compatible; there might not be any chemistry, you might have completely different views on important (or not so important) things in life. There is no rule that says you must like and get on with everyone you go on a date with, yet so many of us get nervous because we want so much for it to work out. By understanding that you won’t enjoy everyone’s company, you can be more relaxed.


Even if you do enjoy your date’s company, they might not feel any compatibility with you, and again, if you are yourself, this is not something you can help. Just accept it and move on, taking the lessons you’ve learned about confidence with you to your next, hopefully, more successful, date.

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