Signs And Symptoms Of Relationship Codependency


There have been various interpretations of what codependency is. But according to its modern definition, we now understand it as a relationship that involves an extreme dependence on another, whether emotionally or mentally, and in some cases, physically.


What, then, are the signs of codependency? Read on below and use this guide to learn more about whether you’re being an unhealthy Codependent in your relationship. And as you identify these symptoms, learn to curb your tracks from codependency into self-trust and independence, and contributing towards a mutually healthy relationship. 

Signs You’re In A Codependent Relationship

Constantly Trying To Gain Others’ Approval 

Here’s a sign of codependency that tends to be overlooked by many because they believe that this is something “normal”. However, this shouldn’t be the case. Doing everything to please others even to the disregard of your own needs, beliefs, and integrity is teetering on the unhealthy.


We’d like to add that this borders on low self-esteem, which is linked to constant approval-gaining. Codependents have such a lack of confidence in themselves that it drives them to search for it through others’ acclamation. When it isn’t given, it further lets their confidence sink lower.

Fear Of Rejection and Abandonment 

Psychiatrists have revealed that this one is very much related to the first sign mentioned above. Because of your obsessive need of approval, rejection, even in the slightest, such as a disagreement in opinions for anything of the mundane, impacts you deeply. That, and to the point of taking it personally. 


Simple comments and remarks that have nothing to do with the codependent are understood as though they’re all directed towards him or her. You then become very critical of every conversation because you begin thinking that you yourself are the target of said conversation. 


This remains to be true with constructive criticism. A codependent is unable to receive it and have a positive outlook on how to better himself or herself. Instead, you will think that you are being attacked and will, henceforth, succumb to a fear of rejection and/or abandonment.

Manipulating Others Through Guilt & Victimization

Codependent people are extremely uncomfortable being in situations where they feel like they aren’t in control. During these occurrences when you believe yourself to be powerless, and therefore, feel the need to have a full hold on the reigns, so to speak, you bring up guilt in others to have them comply with what you alone want. 


In parallel to this is victimization. When you believe yourself to be less in control of a person or circumstance with said person, you’ll re-imagine reality and put yourself down as a “victim” because you didn’t get what you want. 

An Excessive Desire Of Being Responsible For Others (Even When Your Help Is Unneeded) 

This may sound like something positive at the onset. But if you take a look at the implications behind this sign, it will be revealed that having an unceasing self-imposed obligation to offer help even when it’s not needed ties in with wanting to control others and gain their approval. 


It’s also a reflection of an insecurity that’s rooted within. Because of a lack of self-esteem, you feel as though this can be overcome by trying to solve others’ problems albeit unnecessary. 


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