Death, grief and loss are difficult phenomena for humans to deal with. The fear of the afterlife, the fact that you will never see or hear your loved one again, not to mention feelings of loss and extreme helplessness, can create conflicting and difficult emotions. When you grieve, this provides you with the opportunity to come to terms with the death of someone that you love or with whom you had an emotional attachment. That grief also allows you to take a personal inventory and establish how the death impacts you. Viewing grief in this way enables you to review this person’s life in the context of how they shaped who you are as an individual.
Remember that you can use your grief for the better – take time to slow down and reflect what this person’s life, influence and death means for you – as this will have a great effect on how you cope and process your emotions in the long term.
Out of your control
Death is difficult for humans to deal with, as it is a part of life that touches us all, at one point or another. It can be particularly hard to cope with death if it is sudden, or involves violent and horrific incidents such as a transport related accident, suicide or even a heart attack. People who lose a loved one due to sudden death feel lost and distraught, as there was no proper time to say goodbye. Your life, and that of your family, will be changed forever. In the case of a suicide or a sudden death, this affects not only the person who died but also others who had an emotional tie to the person. The loss, shock and grief that overcome you after you lose someone to suicide is incredibly overwhelming. It can make you feel as if you have fallen a deep pit of grief and will never be able to get out. These are natural and normal feelings, and are a part of the grieving process.
Guilt and hopelessness
Inability to understand why the suicide occurred will also affect how you grieve. So too will the stigma that is attached to suicide, as it can often feel like a painful burden or secret to bear for friends and family of the deceased. If you were present when the suicide occurred, managing your memory and the direct aftermath of suicide is an incredibly stressful event to cope with. Rather than dealing with this yourself, consider consulting suicide cleanup services. In the weeks after the event, your grief might be heart-wrenching. At the same time, you could even feel consumed by guilt — wondering how and why you could have done something to prevent your loved one’s death.
Take your time
It’s important to remember that you are not alone. Do be sure to share and express your feelings with friends and relatives who knew the person from happier times. Don’t bottle up your emotions. Suicide and sudden death shouldn’t be a taboo subject – so make sure that you don’t suffer and grieve in silence.
